Wednesday, May 20, 2009

death and obscene messages

  • Seen today in a drive-thru: Spanking shiny new red truck with giant decals across the back that read: Ditch The Bitch and Go Goosin'! I was aghast.
  • Explaining death to kids, even with lots of resources (thank you, funeral home!) and patience is a very hard thing. Both B and I are guilty of saying 'He's gone' which Rosey has decided means he could come back if we'd only let him. (We are so mean.) - so then I have to use blunt phrases like 'Papa's body' and 'Never going to see him again' which makes B flinch, and then I feel I'm being unkind and wounding him on purpose.
  • We have a very sad little boy. Cass has been through death before with a dog and cat, so he understands the permanence of it, but he's never been through a visitation before. So I've been trying to describe what's going to be happening. (Bear flinches.)
  • Visitation tomorrow, funeral Friday. We're going to take the kids to the visitation and decide about the funeral afterwards.
  • Thank you, all of you, for your sweet messages of condolence. Y'all are wonderful people.


OvaGirl said...


Always Home and Uncool said...

Condolences. Hope you all pull through.

Don Mills Diva said...

It's so hard hon, I know. Given my not-very-religious background I feel weird telling Graham his Oma is in heaven but it's the best I can come up with right now...

Good luck with the visitation.

Chantal said...

We had to go through that when my grandfather passed away last fall. D does still ask about him on occasion and we talk about it. It is such a huge concept for kids to grasp. Take Care.

Anonymous said...

I'm a funeral director and have seen quite a few young children at funerals, including my own at their grandfather's service. They're usually more curious than anything else.
Best to you all,

Woman in a Window said...

There's no right or wrong. Only being there. xo